“One day I will find the right words, and they will be simple”
“One day I will find the right words, and they will be simple”
Speaking with the body. Using eyes, posture, breath, all reaching out to me. One energy pulling the other. Manifesting into an experience that shakes the heavens and earth. Once the dust settles, all that remains is the remembrance of a present moment of bliss. Oh bliss. Worth waking up for. Worth striving for. What a way to live. What a way to die. Metta.
I’m disgusted with what I see from men. It’s never been so in my face until recently. I’m late to the Feminist party but the 💩 that I’m starting to realize is downright crazy. How is it that men were literally birthed from a female human yet treat them so poorly? It goes against any other social norm we have in society about treating others with respect. I apologize for my role in this patriarchal bull. The only way I feel like I can help is by checking dudes when they get out of line. I’m usually one for avoiding conflict, but if I have a daughter, I want her to grow up in an environment where she doesn’t have to fear for her safety. I’m calling on all men to take a stand for the women of the world and stop with this rape culture manipulation to get into a woman’s pants. She lets you into a vulnerable space and you have the nerve to disrespect her? At what point am I supposed to respect you as a man? Get your 💩together brothers. Metta.
“If I could do my single like over again, I would have been way less fearful to be honest when relationships were starting. Women are not as psycho as you think. A lot of the times when you say that women are psycho it’s because you were being deceptive and then they go fucking psycho — Yeah, they definitely do. But you a lot of times create it. If you just told them straight up front, when they are like, “So what is this?” And just tell them, “Look, I’m not interested in getting into a relationship right now,” or “Like listen, I enjoy your company right now but I’m not feeling like this spark that there’s something taking this to that next level and I feel like you should know that.” And you’d be surprised at how well they take that.” — Bill Burr
Where is your zest for life? See the amazement of wonder on a child’s face. The world is brand new. Look at your life differently. Treat your experiences as challenges that make you stronger. Find your will to succeed through changing the perspective of your experience. Be happy to be in such a place. Bask in every moment. Pleasant or unpleasant. You’ll go much further in life with a perspective that shines with hope. Your experience is YOUR EXPERIENCE. Don’t let others tell you how to feel. Metta ✌🏾
We love the growth! But the pain is what keeps us from reaching our full potential. The fear of pain hinders us from experiencing life. We can’t get out of our own way. You didn’t come this far in life to live an ordinary life. I would write way more but my battery is about to die and I can’t find the charger. 🙂 Part 2 Coming Soon
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I DO NOT RESPECT MONEY. I treat it as if I know more will grow somewhere around me. One could argue that I treat it as if it were air, always there to utilize when I needed it. I forget that not everyone has this outlook on money due to growing up with harsher financial upbringings than me. In the past couple of weeks, I’ve been able to detach myself from the mental slavery that being in debt puts you in. Once you take the public value and popularity from it, you realize that it’s just another resource in life. Nothing more, nothing less. You’re a good person with or without it. So stop stressing. Make sure you have your basic needs covered and then utilize your time wisely while you are on this earth. Put yourself in a position to where you aren’t constantly worried about how you’re going to provide for your family and start spending time with your family. Trust me, I would trade in some of those clothes I had when I was a kid if I knew it would give me more family time with my parents. They worked double shifts to make sure I had what I needed. That’s an ultimate sacrifice. That’s their life. I’m changing the way I view money so that it doesn’t cause stress to my children when it’s time. You can live a happy life with less material bullsh*t. That’s a fact.
As I face my demons of financial illiteracy, it becomes a difficult subject to talk about. Mostly because so much of my self worth is wrapped up in how much money I make. It’s a continuing process to be like, nah I’m good with life. Simply being and enjoying life appears to be much harder than it should be. I always feel like I need to make more or move up that social ladder and give myself some validation from the outside. Validation does feel good but that can’t be the only thing that drives you. There is a richness to life that if you tap into it, feels way better than any vice could bring you.
For the longest I’ve felt that hardships in my life was due to some family curse that was laid upon my people. I felt like I was a second class citizen to white elites. I always felt secondary to their lifestyles. It seemed so foreign to me. So many emotions would rush through my body. I felt anger, jealousy, envy, rage, sadness, but now… I just feel free. I feel truly happy to liberate myself from the thought of me needing to obtain some socioeconomic status to feel one with myself. It’s crazy for me to sit back and realize how much sh*t I used to tell myself. How I wasn’t handsome because my facial features didn’t match that of a white man. When I think about attraction now, that’s the one thing people love about me. They love how different and universal I am. You have to embrace what’s inside you and love yourself. When others see and feel that energy, it’s attractive. Regardless of what skin tone you may have, it’s going to bring awareness to people’s lives. As my own spiritual practice grows, I hope to see more people loving themselves and not feeling like a second class citizen. One thing is for certain. This won’t be an easy life, but it’ll be an interesting one. Metta.
Know Thyself is a great aphorism to utilize in your daily practice of cultivating dopeness. So much of our existence is based on the perceived face we put on for our families, jobs, friends, etc. Knowing who you truly are is on the most liberating feelings that you can experience. It can give you a wave of highs and understanding that no drug can compete with. You get an understanding of the universe that we inhabit and you begin to realize your place in it. With an understanding of this magnitude, it’s important that you humble yourself in your understanding. Mostly because if you use your knowledge for sheer personal gain, you will end up receiving the karmic energy of those actions. This is where your ethics comes in. If you are aligned with your ethics and how you interact with the world, then life becomes limitless in the possibilities you can manifest for yourself. Your brain puts these artificial limits on what you can accomplish in life. There is always something that you “need” in order to get to that next level of feeling. The media has told you a bold face lie. You can achieve happiness with way less stuff in your life than you think. Take time out of your day to detach from life a bit and look into who you truly are. Once you see all the strength that you possess. You will realize that you’ve had the power all along. It was just up to your actions to bring about the positive thoughts that you can do it. Don’t make any excuses for yourself. Take the leap and truly give it your all. I’ve personally struggled with this and it’s been reflective of my writing. Negative doubts about my abilities and what I can accomplish plague me from writing anything. Well, not anymore. All of my readers will be on the journey with me. It’ll get ugly but we are going to have some beautiful moments together. I hope that through my path, it will inspire you to take on your own path and liberate yourselves. Metta.
Nothing brings a group of folks together like breaking bread together. The consumption of food is ingrained in every culture that has ever existed. It’s one of our most essential needs for survival. The hunting and gathering of resources is how we define who we are. Our lives are usually designed around our next meal. We’ve even come up with catchy phrases to describe our irritability when we don’t have enough of it (Hangry). So with this biological need, how much do we pay attention to what we consume?
A timeline of our food history would show how we have gone from eating our food mostly raw to cooking almost everything in site. Early humans had to figure out what foods were needed for our survival and what foods we needed to avoid. Keeping documentation of this information proved vital for our advancement. Today we’ve become slightly lazy in our understanding of food. It seems to be an afterthought, until we get much older in life. Until a medical doctor tells us we need to change, we see no issue.
Most of us live in a more privileged society than our ancestors. We have the luxury of not being slaves to our appetites. We can make conscious decisions about what we put into our bodies. It’s become trendy to tell others what diets we have taken up. Our diets can be shaped by our cultural upbringing, athletic and body goals, and access to certain resources. The social network around us can influence our food choices. Ever been shamed for ordering a salad at dinner? Or how about not finishing the food that’s on your plate? Trust me I’ve been there.
Mindful eating is a way to observe your eating habits and for you to become aware of what’s going on in your body. There are a bunch of commercials and ads out there to persuade you into eating food that is not meant to treat your body well. With mindful eating you’ll cut right through the bull and make informed decisions about how you fuel your existence.
Most of my childhood I didn’t really have a ton of guidance when it came to food. Anytime I ate a vegetable it came out of a can. Honestly most of the food I ate was once frozen or came out of a can. There was usually meat in everything, including the vegetables. Most things came fried and eating until you were full/stuffed was encouraged. Because I’m naturally slim there was never any concern. I was also a pretty active kid playing outside and such. So until I got into my later 20s did I really start noticing what I was eating. As a teen I could eat Chickfila everyday with no issues. I would just burn through everything during basketball practice and still have abs. That’s a thing of the past. My metabolism has slowed a bit and I’m def not as active as I used to be. I had to make minor adjustments to my diet so that I don’t over indulge myself. Now I find myself eating foods that I never tasted as a kid. Like eggplant. No clue what that was when I was a kid. I still don’t have a great system of eating. The creed that “If it’s free it’s for me” is still a law I live by. But I’ve definitely tamed it a bit. I still have my moments where I can go through three bags of Doritos with no thinking at all.
To get a different perspective I had a friend guest write her experience with food. Check out her blog (www.rootedmagic.com) whenever you get a chance.
Emily’s Story: I decided to become vegetarian about 11 years ago when I was 15 years old. I watched a single video on factory farming and it completely changed my life. For the first few years, I was pescatarian, but then decided to cut fish out of my diet as well. I was the first person in my southern white family to stop eating meat. My cousins soon followed suit, and now most everyone in my family is following either a vegetarian or humane path. At least once a year I discover something new that I want to cut out of my diet in order to continue to stay true to my values, such as gelatin, certain additives, rennet… I’ve considered becoming vegan, and even tried it for a month or so at a time, but haven’t yet committed to that lifestyle. However, I tend to prefer nut milk, coconut yogurt, and other dairy substitutes to keep around the house, and I always search for either humane or local eggs. As I grow older, I find myself becoming more and more contemplative about what I put into my body. I spend more time in the garden, at farmers markets, and cooking healthy meals at home. I’m even starting to learn to preserve and can my own garden veggies. I’ve never regretted my decision to become meat-free, and it has never been difficult to maintain. I’ve read that statistically, once you hit the eleven year mark, you are likely to remain vegetarian for life. Looks like I’m here to stay.
As you can see there is no one way to go about eating. As you live and learn you’ll make transitions. You are not the same person from day to day, so there is no way that your diet could be too. Your diet is vastly different now then when you were 3 years old. As we age our bodies will require different types of nourishment. Tuning into our bodies and connecting will help notify us of these necessary transitions. So it’s critical to not get attached to one style of living or eating. Your growth is a continuous process so be gentle with yourself as you strive forward.
If you’re looking to get educated about food I suggest checking out the many documentaries on Netflix. Watching those documentaries sparked my interest years ago and I’ve only recently begun to pay closer attention to how my food is cooked and prepared. In Defense Of Food is a documentary that I just watched and it has completely changed how I view the world. Check out Libuse Binder’s Ten Ways to Change the World in your Twenties for environmental insights about eating and supporting local farmers. The book talks about many topics that helps you stay engaged in what’s happening in your world. And you don’t have to be in your 20s to benefit from the information inside. As far as planning your meals and such, I suggest being more intentional about your meal planning. Plan out a few days to help you get started. This way you’re not falling into old habits when you don’t have an already set time about what you’re going to eat. If you’re going to a restaurant, do your research first. Look at the online menu and pick out what you’re going to order before you get there. Try to hold true to your schedule. Surprise get-togethers will come up but if you develop a steady practice of planning you’ll be able to handle those encounters better.
As stated before, I’m nowhere from being where I would like to be in my mindful food consumption. Everyday is a constant battle with what I’ve learned as a child, to the influences of the media, and the new habits I’m forming now. Don’t lose sight of your goals. As you chip away daily at them, realize the good merits you’re exhibiting by giving a damn about your health and the environment. Have fun and be blessed on your journey. Metta.